first lesson in decision making

How do you make your decisions?
          Do you think of what will be the consequences of the decision? or do you rather think of which would be more fun?
          Most of us think of this in a mix of the two, usually in the wrong mix. The way I make my decisions is by making a list of advantages and disadvantages in my mind.If it covers a large portion in my life then it is probably better to jot it down on paper.

              Now, most of us are usually faced with only two decisions, a YES or a NO.

              Would you spend $500 on your daughter's college field trip?
               This is a YES or NO question.
               most people would answer this to their daughters with a plain Yes or NO based on their present mood. But you should't. What if this field trip means that your daughter could fall in trouble?
What if this could be the best day of her life?You would certainly not want that to be lost just at the cost of $500 would you?

              But this thought is not valid unless you are in an emotionless mood. This mood is never achieved as the brain is constantly thinking of something subconsciously. If this is not possible, then what is the solution?

              The solution is to think of all advantages:
              1.This trip will educate my child
              2.It will also help her bond with her friends

              3.This might also make her career decisions in life as one experience usually changes a persons life.

              4.It will make my wallet a bit lot lighter.

              And all the disadvantages:

              1.I will primarily lose $500

              2.My daughter might choose the wrong career just by this one trip so i will have to send her on          other such trips to help her make the right decision which will result in a loss of more money.
             
             Since the bulk of my advantages are greater than the disadvantages, i should probably let her go on the trip. But before that, can I reduce the disadvantages?
             Can I reduce the cost of the trip? NO
             Can I prevent her from making the wrong decision? YES . By talking to her and convincing her to look at all the advantages and disadvantages of going to the trip and of making the right choice.

THE NEXT STEP

Hi,
    Before reading this post please read http://logicalscienceandliving.blogspot.com/2011/10/first-post.html first.

    I hope that you got my point from the first post. If you have stopped and thought about giving money to a beggar, then you have to think a bit more before you follow this.
    Now you come to the people in your daily life.
 

Your friend that drank with you on your 18th birthday party. Do you care about that friend?
              Lets say he/she comes up to you today and asks you for some money, say $1000, would you give it to him/her?  or would you hesitate?
              The problem is that you care. Probably not that much but you do, however little that affection is.

Try and get rid of that. If you would never ever lend $1000 to a person on the street, then why would you do it to a person that you don't even know for so many years? The answer is that you shouldn't . You know why?
           Because it means loss. And loss is something that no one likes. No matter what people think of you, the might say that you are inhumane or something, but that's how its supposed to be because it spells LOGIC.
           Why would I do something that doesn't benefit me in any way? You might say that it will benefit you because you will feel happy inside, but you won't because a $1000 is way more valuable than your happiness from a 20 year old friend that came to that party only to take those few shots of tequilla.
            Apply the same logic to your colleagues. Don't have any pity on them if they are wrong. If you have to take action then do it. If that person is your boss then explain slowly, but don't scream at him/her. If you feel that you will be better off by leaving the job then give him/her a nice scolding and then leave the job, because no matter what you do, you can always get another job.

FIRST POST

Dear viewer,
Have you ever faced a very serious and dangerous decision in your life?
If you're answer is yes then you need this blog to change your future answer to the same question to a NO.
Although many, or rather all, of us think that making the right decision is very important, it's not.

      I've personally lived only for 16 years but i already know that my parents are more tensed than me. When i ask them why, they just tell me that you will know when "the time" comes. I've been waiting for "the time" to come for more than ten years now.
     Then, about a year back, i asked myself why i shouldn't be tensed already.
      I went up to my mom with great difficulty and asked her why she was tensed. She smiled and told me that it was because she cared for me and my younger brother a lot, and so she didn't want us to feel bad in any way.
    Then I started to think why I did not care about anyone so much as to make me tense. I didn't even care if i passed in my exam or not. But one day, I saw my best friend was in pain. I asked him what happened, and he said that he had failed in his English exam. This did not appeal to me as something to feel bad about, I had failed in my exam more than 3 times and I didn't feel bad at all. So I thought about this for a long time in my room when I was using Facebook.
   I thought that maybe people felt bad because they cared. I didn't care about my exams, so it didn't matter to me. My mother cares about me, so she feels bad when i fail, as she thinks that i will feel bad if i do not graduate with my friends.
  So, for starters, try not to care about strangers. If you see a beggar on the road, at least don't care about him, because if you do, then you might feel bad that you didn't give him any money even though you had some.
  Stay tuned for more ways to not care and other logical answers to the biggest questions of life.
   Believe it or not, this is also science.